Monday, 1 February 2021

Just Start NOW


February is here. 
We'll all agree that the year is not so new anymore.

The buzz about new year resolutions in the first place wasn't exactly there and I think we're beginning to get the hang of it. 

"The New Year, New Me" mantra doesn't exactly work, what works is having a mental disposition that you want to change certain things about yourself whether it's the first day of the year or the 118th day of the year. 

But this does not in any way mean that you neglect the importance of newness or the opportunity of a fresh start that a new day or new month gives you. 

Maybe you've made plans, you have goals you want to achieve or a certain level you want to be at by the end of the year. NOW is the time to start. Not tomorrow, not the next day but now. 

Get busy. Break down those goals you have written down into tiny action points that can keep you busy and productive. If you want to write a book, you can decide to write a chapter in two weeks. And by the end of the month, you would have written two chapters. 

Stop waiting for a perfect time to start working on your goals, it literally doesn't exist. 

You've spent time planning and strategizing how you'll achieve those goals you've written, don't linger in that phase anymore. Begin to DO something. 

Long story short, just start NOW. 

Thursday, 21 January 2021

Do You Really "Pray About it?"

In the past year, we have seen and experienced very trying times. Even if it hasn't too hit close to home, we've had friends, loved ones, church members, classmates, share challenges that could make you shudder and wonder how they're even able to get up in the morning. Or it could be that you have had to endure painful experiences as well. 

And when our close ones share these challenges, we are quick to respond with that cliché phrase amongst the christian folk, "I'll pray about it". It's such an easy thing to say, you know, something to make you feel or look spiritual. 

It's not exactly a bad thing though except, Do you really pray about it, or does it skip your mind the next minute you're distracted and your mind wanders off to something else? 

And then when it has to do with your personal problems, do you/have you really pray/prayed about it?. Pause for a moment and think about it. Many times we talk to the people around us MORE than we talk to God about a certain situation. 

This is a new year and a lot of us might have some laid down resolutions for the year. I'll advise that to that list, we add that we'll always take a minute or two immediately after we say that phrase to follow through with it. 

And that, just before you pour your heart out to that friend or 'bestie', ask yourself "have I talked to God about this?", "Have I actually prayed about this challenge I am experiencing?"

We just might never get around to praying over some issues of our lives or praying for friends that have confided in us if we keep looking for a perfect time. Prayer can happen anytime, anywhere, in traffic, while doing domestic chores or even while answering nature's call. 

Whatever you do, please Pray about it. 

Tuesday, 4 February 2020

Life's Journey of Gratitude

I just finished reading The Ultimate Journey by Jim Stovall and I have been so blessed by it. It opened my eyes to a lot of things that we generally take for granted. One of which is Gratitude

I've come to realize that there's never really a destination point as long as we are here on Earth. There will always be something to do, a prize to win, greater heights to attain, even problems to solve and challenges to overcome.

I remember when I wrote my final exam in the university, we were so excited. We screamed and celebrated while carrying out all the necessary signing out ceremonies. In my mind, I felt like all the sleepless nights and late night studying had finally come to an end. 

Little did I know that, I was just only getting started on this thing called life. 

I have about a thousand PDFs on my phone that keeps growing in number. The more I read, the more I find out there is so much more I need to know. 

At some point when I was at the verge of frustration of not being able to meet up with the demands of life, I began to understand that my life is an ongoing process and I can't do it all at once. 

I have made up my mind to be grateful for the opportunity to be alive at such a time as this and to be able to make a difference in any little way I can.

I have started to celebrate my victories (like finishing a book) no matter how small and to not only learn but also move on from my failures and defeats no matter how devastating. 

I choose to be thankful no matter the situation I face, whether difficult because I know it's only making me stronger. 

I don't just think it, I say it. I express my gratitude to God because as my mind hears me say it, it keeps embracing the gratitude attitude.

My dreams and visions keeps evolving and expanding as I grow and I set goals that keep me striving. But I will not stay dissatisfied with how far I've come just because I haven't gotten to where I'd rather be. 
Although the temptation to be complacent arises, I know that there's always the 'next best thing' so I move. 

In all, I know that there's so much more God has planned out for my life and my utmost desire is to have lived for His glory when my life is over. 
I am also thankful for how far He's brought me and I know the best is yet to come.

Fellow millennials, I know that there's a lot of expectations from family, friends, loved ones and most importantly from you. The 'get-rich-quick' mentality has permeated our society because of growing demands on us. 
But we must understand that going through the process enables us remain at the top when we eventually get there. While we try our best to make the most out of our lives, let us enjoy the process.

We must deliberately choose to go through life with a positive and thankful attitude no matter the challenges we face. 

Remember, the journey is not the joy, but the joy is in the journey.

Tuesday, 26 June 2018


You and I, dear reader would both agree that a lot has happened in our lives already this year and we're just about getting done with the first half of it. I for one haven't been exactly reaching the marks I set for myself this year and it gets so frustrating when I look at how much is yet to be done that I want to just throw 'it' all away and just settle for whatever happens. The case might be the same for some of y'all.
If you do not happen to belong to this category, well, congratulations! But I'd also have you know that there is always a better way to doing stuff and living life, just so you don't settle for whatever wonderful position you might find yourself in at the moment.
So, first things first, what does it actually mean to 'Settle'?
The meaning of the word varies over a wide range of definitions but in the context of this article it means, "To become fixed or permanent; to become stationary; to establish one's self or itself; to assume a lasting form, condition, direction, or the like, in place of a temporary or changing state.", just so we're clear of the kind of 'settle' we're actually talking about.
At the beginning of the year, a lot of us probably made resolutions, plans, set goals and did a whole lot of restructuring so that we could make the most of the year. For some of us, our plans have yielded good and satisfiable results, for some of us also on the other hand, things haven't as much as turned out as we planned. Most of us are then out of frustration throwing in the towel seeing it's already mid year and settling for whatever the rest of the year has to offer. While also considering those for whom the sun has been shining ever so brightly that have decided to bask in the rays while forgetting that there's a rainy season ahead. We might have chosen to settle for less and this decision whether taken unconsciously or deliberately is exactly what sets apart the champions from the winners and the winners from the quitters.
What most of us don't know is that settling is as good as giving up because a person who thinks he or she has reached his peak starts to retrogress. Life is progressive, change is the only constant thing, we must keep moving against all odds!
Settling just because you feel you've achieved quite a lot or next to nothing is like canceling a journey just because you've run out of fuel.
We are in a constant state of facing one challenge or the other, this is what life is all about. And as we overcome those challenges we improve ourselves and our standards of living and the cycle goes on and on. Its puzzling to know that some of the time, we're almost already at the peak of our breakthrough when we decide to call it quits, pack our bags, hold our horses and settle, for less usually.
Just because everything you planned out has not happened in your timing doesn't mean they're not going to happen after all. "But Kiki it's midyear already!" I know but a lot can happen in one day you know...Joseph the biblical character had his life transformed overnight. One night he was sleeping in a prison next night he was in the palace!
Our christian life was also designed to be progressive, moving from one degree to another, growing in depth of the knowledge of God. The moment you start to think you know all you need to know about God, you enter a state of familiarity and complacency. This gradually gives room for lukewarmness as your fire begins to fizzle out.
One prayer that struck me while reading a book was, "Lord, don't take me to where you can't reach me!", before like some of my friends would say "He'll just close your heaven!"
See, in all ramifications of life, settling on past achievements and dwelling on past failures will truncate God's original purpose for our lives. Just like He said in his word in the 18th and 19th verse of the 43rd chapter of the Prophet Isaiah, "Remember he not the former things, neither consider the things of the old. Behold I do a new thing; now it shall spring forth; shall ye not know it...?"
God is always doing a new thing but we're always so caught up in either our past victories or defeats that we do not see Him breaking boundaries and moving mountains for our sakes. It's time to open our eyes to new possibilities, to what the rest of the year has to offer us.
It's not the time to SETTLE DOWN but the time to MOVE FORWARD.

Thursday, 4 January 2018


In my previous article, I mentioned quite a number of steps one could take towards the coming year in order to make it a successful and rewarding one. And there are other things I'd also want to share with you in that aspect. They might be things you already know but didn't think were important but I tell you they'd go a long way in making your year worth it.
Positivity is just like a vibe. It emanates from people unconsciously. And this is one of our major goals in the lair, to exude positive vibes to those around us and on this platform. Everyone wants to be around optimistic people. Those with a pessimistic view always have a gloomy outlook on life. Being positive draws people to you and increases your chances of meeting strategic people. Networking is very essential as no man is an island.
So then, how can you be positive?
  • Positive confessions. 

Always make positive confessions even in the face of negative circumstances. It might not be easy but remember, discipline is key. 
  • Self talk
Learn to talk to yourself but of course in the confines of your room or under your breath in the midst of people so they don't think you're crazy. Sometimes, you will have to be your only encouragement. Congratulate yourself when you've done well, its not a vice. It is not wrong to say good things about yourself.


Research has shown that it takes about 43 muscles to frown and 17 to smile. The more you smile, the better you feel. As Joyce Meyer accurately puts it, "You're not fully dressed until you put on a smile. A smile is a facelift that is in everyone's price range"
Don't try to please everyone, don't fall into the trap of trying to please everyone. It would weigh you down and stress you up. Don't live under the tyranny of their expectations. Learn to cope with criticism, every great man or woman has had to learn that.

You have to be healthy to be able to actively pursue your dreams and goals. Cut down on junk eating and save your money. Eat right, eat healthy. Fruits and vegetables are essential. Drink lots of water to keep your system free of toxic substances.
4.  REST 
I'm still trying to figure out whee we Africans picked up the notion that resting is equivalent to laziness. There is a line between the two please. You have to rest your body so it can be up and active to pursue the next goals in line.

Ironically, this is the last point in this post but it was done on purpose so it'd be the last thing you read and first thing on your mind when you think of this post. God already knows what the end of your 2018 looks like, follow his directions and you'll get there in one piece. His word, the bible is like the ultimate guide. Find time to study and meditate on it. It would refresh and renew your mind.

So, this is me officially welcoming you into  the year. I hope and pray that 2018 turns out to be the best year ever for you and for me.
Let's roar together!

Friday, 29 December 2017


The year is gradually drawing to a close and soon a new year will come knocking at your door again. It would make sense to prepare for its coming so you won't be caught unawares. If 2017 didn't go well for you, now is the time to count your losses and move on. Don't wait for the new year to do that, it could lower your morale by 80%. 
If it went just as you planned, kudos! But remember, there's always more, there's always higher ground to climb and there's always a better wayway to doing things so don't rest on your oars. 
The purpose of this article is to prepare you for 2018, so much that the year itself will meet you ready and waiting at the door to welcome it.

This will help you set the proper goals. Sometimes, disappointments can hit you so hard you begin to wonder if your dreams are actually not too big for you. Maybe they are, but then isn't that why its called a 'dream'? And your vision is to make those dreams become a reality. So just in case the hustles and bustles of 2017 knocked your vision out of sight, you have to consciously kick it back into place. It may have become blurred with distractions buy you have got to stick with it. How? 
  • Rewrite it
  • Rehearse it 
  • Target it
  • Understand it
  • Make it plain.
  • Go after it.
And this leads you to the next step.


I noticed something peculiar happen to me this year. For all the months I set goals for myself, I achieved to a considerable extent. But for the months I didn't, I just moved with the tides, wasn't focused and by the end of the month, I didn't achieve much.
Goal setting is a must if you're serious about getting results and closer to making your dreams a reality. Goals can be divided into three segments, long term goals(years), mid term goals(6months) and short term goals(a month, a week, daily).
Set goals in every area of your life. For instance,
Physically➡Exercising every day or three times a week.
Mentally/Psychologically➡Having a certain number of books you would read in a month,this has been made easier with the introduction of audio books), types of seminars you would want to attend, audio messages you'd listen to.
Spiritually➡How much closer you want to get to your God. Prayer times, bible study plan, engage in active service by joining a department.
Financially➡Having a budget and sticking to it, if you've not already, please open a savings account. If possible don't get ATM card for it. Create strategies for generating multiple streams of income. This is where the need to get advice from experts through seminars could come in.
All these goals have to be written down for reference purposes cause as the saying goes, "the faintest ink is better than the brightest brain"

Plan how you intend to achieve those goals you've set. For example, a student who has 9 courses to study in a semester  has to draw a plan, a timetable sort of else he might not be able to cover much. One of my principal's favorite slogan in secondary school days then was "If you fail to plan, you plan to fail!" So make plans, also having in mind that we can plan just about 60% of the day just so we wouldn't get so uptight if things don't go just as planned. Most times they won't and this is why there's always need for plans b,c,d and to z if need be.
If you've been disciplined enough to go through this mentally tasking processes aforementioned, then you're good to go. But then you need even a higher dose of discipline to follow through with what you've set out to do.
If you're desperate enough for change, you would do whatever it takes. Its only an insane man that keeps doing the same thing over and over again while expecting to get different results.

Monday, 25 December 2017

My Christmas Story

I had always heard of Santa Claus and the image I had of Him was a stout fat man dressed in red carrying a sack of gifts and entering through the chimney. Well, since we didn't have any chimney, I always wondered where he'd come in through if he ever visited my house. A day before Christmas when I was quite younger, mom said to get ready, we'd be going to see Santa. In my little mind, the image I had was the one I expected we were going to see. I was so excited, I told everyone who cared to listen, everyone literally, I mean even the mallam on my street that I was going to see Santa. Whether they understood what I was saying or not, I was just too excited to care. Finally morning came, after a long night, longer than usual or not probably cause I was too excited to sleep well. It was actually a Christmas party and other kids were there as well. Eventually, we stood on the line waiting our turn to see Santa. From afar, he looked slimmer than usual, did he lose weight? I wondered. As I got closer, I found out he looked darker, was it cause of going down through different chimneys? I pondered. And when it was two kids away from my turn, I screamed. This was definitely not the real Santa, his beard had just fallen off! I was mortified. Mom kept asking what was wrong, I couldn't explain all I could do was point at him. I refused to go meet him, he was just too black to be true. But that didn't stop me from reaching out to collect the bagpack he stretched out to give me. I went home totally disappointed and more disappointed when I found out the next term that Santa was our maths teacher Uncle Segun. I didn't like maths so that made it all the worse. But at least I was grateful for the bag pack, I had shared its contents with my friend Bolu who didn't get anything for Christmas. It was a season for sharing right?