Everyone likes to have a sense of belonging, family and friends play a major role in feeling this void and are also part of the sum total of what makes up a man. This is why most times the way a person turns out can be traced back to the family he came from, his friends and his environment.
The saying "Show me your friends and I'll tell you who you are" can rarely be faulted.
In this context, I'd like to somewhat classify kinds of friends into two categories, The SQUAD or The GANG.
Almost everyone {except a few lone rangers} tends to have a closely knit group of friends who they spend the time with and listen to the most. The issue is a lot of people do not know the effect of the kind of friends they keep and many have had to pay dearly for this ignorance. Knowing how to identify the friends who constantly subtract and divide you and making the necessary changes is very important. You do not have the power to chose your family but you have the power to chose your friends. Its your life and future at stake here so putting sentiments aside is very important. Do not also forget that not everybody is supposed to be a close friend, just as not everyone is granted access into the Holy of Holies except those who come by the only true way, Jesus. In setting these boundaries you save yourself from unnecessary drama, disappointments and betrayals.
♦If you have friends that constantly encourage you to follow your dreams and to achieve your goals, you have a squad alright. But when your friends tell you to take it easy and enjoy, no need to be to serious about work, you just might be in a gang.
♦If your friends are able to tell you the truth to your face even when it hurts, this means they care about you enough to not let you go the wrong way, you're fortunately in a squad. But when they try to justify your actions just to make you feel good, a gang it is then.
♦When all they do is take and take and take but never give, chances are you're in a gang. But when you have people who go out of their way to give to you, even when they don't have enough, they're willing to make sacrifices for you, then you have yourself a squad.
♦When your friends do not have any goal or life vision but just go the tides, you're probably in a gang. But when their visions or goals challenge you to do more, then you're in a squad.
♦When all they do is engage in jeering or foolish talk when you guys hang out, then you have yourself a gang. But when they talk to the king in you, and enlighten you so much that when you guys are set to leave, there's a resolve to do more, then my friend you have a squad.
♦When they paint you an ugly picture of yourself, always talking you down and daring you to do stupid things, then you're definitely in a gang. But friends who paint a beautiful picture of you, and are not hesitant in admiring your qualities verbally, make up a squad.
♦When they are not intimidated by your success but join to celebrate you, you're in a squad. But when they try to belittle your achievement just so you don't begin to feel 'too important' they claim, that my friend is a gang.
♦When they're value and virtue based, they do not see morals as old fashioned, then you have a squad. You can to a large extent be rest assured of not being betrayed. But when you have friends who have no inkling of what morals are and tell you it doesn't matter, hmmm, it wouldn't matter too if they were asked to bring your head on a platter for money, that is a gang.
The comparisons are listless but this is just to give you an idea of the kind of people you might've surrounded yourself with. Friends are very important, no man is an island but keeping the right ones are very necessary in as much you also try to be a person of value to those around you cause chances are you attracted them by being just like them.
So go back to drawing board and have yourself some self appraisal. Which do you belong to? SQUAD or GANG?
The saying "Show me your friends and I'll tell you who you are" can rarely be faulted.
In this context, I'd like to somewhat classify kinds of friends into two categories, The SQUAD or The GANG.
Almost everyone {except a few lone rangers} tends to have a closely knit group of friends who they spend the time with and listen to the most. The issue is a lot of people do not know the effect of the kind of friends they keep and many have had to pay dearly for this ignorance. Knowing how to identify the friends who constantly subtract and divide you and making the necessary changes is very important. You do not have the power to chose your family but you have the power to chose your friends. Its your life and future at stake here so putting sentiments aside is very important. Do not also forget that not everybody is supposed to be a close friend, just as not everyone is granted access into the Holy of Holies except those who come by the only true way, Jesus. In setting these boundaries you save yourself from unnecessary drama, disappointments and betrayals.
♦If you have friends that constantly encourage you to follow your dreams and to achieve your goals, you have a squad alright. But when your friends tell you to take it easy and enjoy, no need to be to serious about work, you just might be in a gang.
♦If your friends are able to tell you the truth to your face even when it hurts, this means they care about you enough to not let you go the wrong way, you're fortunately in a squad. But when they try to justify your actions just to make you feel good, a gang it is then.
♦When all they do is take and take and take but never give, chances are you're in a gang. But when you have people who go out of their way to give to you, even when they don't have enough, they're willing to make sacrifices for you, then you have yourself a squad.
♦When your friends do not have any goal or life vision but just go the tides, you're probably in a gang. But when their visions or goals challenge you to do more, then you're in a squad.
♦When all they do is engage in jeering or foolish talk when you guys hang out, then you have yourself a gang. But when they talk to the king in you, and enlighten you so much that when you guys are set to leave, there's a resolve to do more, then my friend you have a squad.
♦When they paint you an ugly picture of yourself, always talking you down and daring you to do stupid things, then you're definitely in a gang. But friends who paint a beautiful picture of you, and are not hesitant in admiring your qualities verbally, make up a squad.
♦When they are not intimidated by your success but join to celebrate you, you're in a squad. But when they try to belittle your achievement just so you don't begin to feel 'too important' they claim, that my friend is a gang.
♦When they're value and virtue based, they do not see morals as old fashioned, then you have a squad. You can to a large extent be rest assured of not being betrayed. But when you have friends who have no inkling of what morals are and tell you it doesn't matter, hmmm, it wouldn't matter too if they were asked to bring your head on a platter for money, that is a gang.
The comparisons are listless but this is just to give you an idea of the kind of people you might've surrounded yourself with. Friends are very important, no man is an island but keeping the right ones are very necessary in as much you also try to be a person of value to those around you cause chances are you attracted them by being just like them.
So go back to drawing board and have yourself some self appraisal. Which do you belong to? SQUAD or GANG?
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